I’ve thought about this so much lately. I went from being in a standard job where I had a manager, constant feedback, etc, to being on my own, looking for work/writing for myself.
Many people told me I needed to stop looking for validation. And in a way, I did, because I’d spent too much of my life not doing things for fear of what others might think. So I started doing it anyway, just for myself.
But in making sure I could cheerlead for myself, I built a shield and desperately tried to not need anyone else. Literally. It didn’t work, and it doesn’t work! We all need connection, we all want to be appreciated and we also want to help.
So yeah, anyone who says we shouldn’t need validation can leave please 😂
So true about validation having an evolutionary purpose, so we can interact with others positively for survival. Great prompts at the end, very helpful thank you
Without external validation, people have no benchmark for what they're doing. Or compass to define their direction.
I’ve thought about this so much lately. I went from being in a standard job where I had a manager, constant feedback, etc, to being on my own, looking for work/writing for myself.
Many people told me I needed to stop looking for validation. And in a way, I did, because I’d spent too much of my life not doing things for fear of what others might think. So I started doing it anyway, just for myself.
But in making sure I could cheerlead for myself, I built a shield and desperately tried to not need anyone else. Literally. It didn’t work, and it doesn’t work! We all need connection, we all want to be appreciated and we also want to help.
So yeah, anyone who says we shouldn’t need validation can leave please 😂
Thank you for sharing this heartfelt story! I totally relate to this unfolding of events ☺️
So true about validation having an evolutionary purpose, so we can interact with others positively for survival. Great prompts at the end, very helpful thank you
I like understanding things at their root 🤓thanks for sharing ❤️
I want to get a hot blonde girlfriend with big tits, how can I get validated by society? I feel constantly rejected.